How can I find partners for a threesome?

Depending on your situation, consider these options: seeking a stranger, a friend, or hiring a sex worker. However, be cautious of ‘unicorn hunting’ if you’re a couple. Using apps like #open or Feeld caters to non-monogamous individuals. Discuss the friend option thoroughly as it may impact your friendship. Hiring a sex worker provides a clear, transactional experience. For singles, Feeld, OKCupid, Tinder, and 3Fun offer avenues for exploration. Keep an open mind and prioritize chemistry.

What should I do during a threesome?

Firstly, expect moments where you might feel left out – it’s natural. However, embracing creativity is key. Prior to the experience, discuss your desires and turn-ons with your partners. You don’t need an elaborate plan, but communicating preferences, such as enjoying specific acts, enhances the experience.

Here are some additional ideas to spark your imagination:

1. Erotic massage: A simple yet effective foreplay option where everyone can participate. Consider using a body-safe candle for ambiance and a wand vibrator for added sensation.

2. Toy tease: Embrace the versatility of sex toys in your threesome. Tease each other, masturbate while being watched, or incorporate them during penetration. Look for a bullet vibe with various power settings for maximum enjoyment.

3. Bondage: Explore the kinky side by taking turns tying each other up. It’s not just about BDSM aesthetics; it’s about the care involved in pleasuring someone while they’re helpless. Consider a kit with a silk scarf and toys for added excitement.»

How can I manage challenging emotions such as jealousy or feeling overwhelmed?

Ashley E. Thompson, a leading researcher on threesomes from the University of Minnesota Duluth, offers valuable insights. Her recent study on threesomes in heterosexual couples revealed positive experiences for many. Implementing practices like ‘aftercare’—such as cuddling and showing affection post-threesome—can help ease emotions like jealousy.

Effective communication and setting clear boundaries beforehand are key to navigating threesomes successfully. Consider establishing a safeword for signaling pauses or breaks during the experience. Many couples find it beneficial to have a pre-threesome discussion, including topics like safewords and boundaries, to foster comfort and connection before diving in.

Be brave and try to experiment!